Monday, July 15, 2013

Would You Like To Be My Neighbor?

It's nerve racking when the house next to you sells, especially if you really liked your previous neighbors.  She was my 'go-to' for a cheese grater among other kitchen supplies. He and Jason would play ball together with the boys. We spent Christmas/New Year's street parties together.  The worst part is I was just starting to warm them up to who 'Jen' really is.  Maybe that's why they moved.

A few weeks ago, another neighbor came to deliver something to our house and I noticed he had a huge gash on his head.  He implied he received it from a fall off a ladder from 'trying to spray pigeons off his roof with a water hose.'  I've razzed him ever since that H2O isn't the typical cure for pigeons.  Since his mishap I will place money that more pigeons roost on his roof than any other on the street.   Hmm...trip sensor synapse for prank idea in my head.  

Imagine roughly 30 or so of these puppies posted on mailboxes, light poles, parking lots, park equipment, and liquor stores within a 5 mile radius:

  

Why do I do it?  I have no idea, other than I lie awake in great amusement at night while scenarios run through my head of how this ends. 
This is only a sampling of what our neighbors over the years have had to endure...all for my cheap thrills.  THIS folks, is my hobby.

As I look out my window and see the new victims neighbors moving in, I can't help but feel sympathy for them and hope they have relatively thick skin, or at least a humorous bone in their body. 

Oh, and if you see my neighbor's pigeon...please don't hesitate to call.
  


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Monday, July 8, 2013

Greener Pastures

Am I the only one who thought everyone's life was better than their own when they were growing up?  No? Okay, good.  In comparison to my parents, other parents were nicer; every family had siblings who loved each other and never fought; other kids didn't have as many chores as I did, my parents made me work for everything I wanted, not to mention I had to drive an orange car.  WHAAAAAAA!!! :'-(
  I will rub it in my mothers face of how horrid a childhood I had because of the endless mowing I had to do, the curfews I had to meet, money I had to earn starting at the age of 15 to pay for my own expenses, etc.   Of course now I see how how that rough childhood has benefited my life, therefore the 'horrible childhood' has become a joking jab to my mother now and again.
Where I had myself fooled was I believed those childhood thoughts would go away.  Those greener pasture thoughts had left my mind until I was introduced to the blogging world.  I have since got my act back together but years ago I noticed I was struggling a bit, no longer in comparing my childhood, not in my role as a wife, but I struggled as I started to compare my motherhood skills to others'.  
  When the kids were small(er), I , like many other moms, would spend time online living other people's lives through reading their blogs/Facebook posts/Pinterest.  I saw their perfect lives staring back at me filling my mind  as the images stabbed me in the heart of how imperfect my life was in comparison.  Here before my eyes were these wonderful women throwing these amazing themed birthday parties with every detail accounted for and executed with precision while I performed very basic birthday celebrations with homemade failed cakes and presents wrapped in cereal boxes with Christmas paper.  Here before my eyes were wonderful women doing arts and crafts with their kids on a daily basis while my arts and crafts with my kids were non-existent unless you count the occasional prank of someone's house which meant acquiring toilet paper and other art supplies.  Here before my eyes were wonderful women cooking full seven course breakfasts in the morning while I taught my kids where the cereal box, bowls, and spoons were with orders not to wake me up before 7.  Here before my eyes were amazing families where every picture was like a Ensign article while if someone caught images in my home would be posting pictures of me harping on Jason for forgetting to take out the trash, or kids crying due to me scolding them for bickering, or the dog puking on the carpet. It seems somewhat funny now but when I remember those feelings I had when I think back at those moments, I truly felt I was failing as a mother. It's one thing to feel pity on yourself  in comparing your own situation to greener pastures, but at that time I saw myself raising my kids in the pasture with overgrown weeds compared to the perfectly fertilized and well maintained grass of others. I was scared of letting my kids down and leading them to a lifetime of resentment of me.
Therefore, I felt it my duty to buck up and do what we American's do best.  I had to keep up with the online Jones's!
So among other things, I bought the fancy cakes for birthdays, did some investigating and made purchases at the local craft stores for projects to do with the kids, and dragged my lazy butt out of bed at the crack of dawn to prepare a wonderful breakfast and did it with the best smile that exists that early in the morning. This was it, I was leading my children to those green pastures where we would be the perfect family and I would be remembered as the greatest mother of all time!
Yep, it was short lived.  Why?  Well, come to find out my kids really like my ugly hand decorated cakes.  Next, I am very creative mentally but for whatever reason that creativity doesn't translate through my hands.  Therefore craft project time wasn't a time of fun and happiness, rather frustration and boredom.  My kids wanted their authentic mom not crabby wanna-be craft mom.  Lastly, after several weeks of tremendous breakfasts, I'll never forget the kids coming to me one morning as if they had planned in advance how they would approach me, "Mom, can we please just have cereal?"  My kids are cereal addicts and cereal continues to be their chosen morning preference with a occasional big breakfast thrown in the mix.  
While going through this experimental phase, I learned a lot about myself.  I became acutely aware of my talents and weaknesses.  I became aware that my kids loved me for my talents, strengths, and my weaknesses.  In short, they love me because I am their mom.
During this time, I did much contemplating about my own childhood and wondered in my adult life if I ever resented my family for not being in the greener pastures I envied so much as a child.  I didn't have the dream childhood by any means.  My parents both had to work full time, I came from a divorced family, I lost my dad early, and dealt with the normal day to day living that isn't always pleasant.  I never sat and did crafts with my mother, we ate cereal for breakfast (and sometimes dinner), I never had a big birthday party.  But within all the good times mixed with the muck, I realized how much I loved my childhood.  I gained talents I have now due to how I grew up with the circumstances given.  I realized God knew exactly what He was doing as I was born in my parent's home. It could be so easy to hold resentment on things we feel we deserved or missed out on. Yet, I have a firm testimony that God knew my parents and He knew how they would raise me.  He knew what tools and talents I would need to be where I am in my life and I thank my parents for those skills and life experiences I learned from them even if they didn't intend for them to be learning experiences.
  
Likewise, God knew exactly what He was doing when he placed my kids in my home.  He knows exactly how Jason and I would be raising them and the talents we have and skills we would teach them as well as the weaknesses we struggle with.  God doesn't expect me to be an expert cake decorator, or a crafty/artsy mom, or perfectly patient (though I'm striving) .  He just needs me to be me, and as long as I'm doing my best, I will be the mother my children need me to be so they can become who they are destined to be.
So I offer this advice: First, if you feel inadequate, evaluate if you are unjustly comparing yourself to others.  I had to back away from the blogs  for awhile until I got my bearings.  Remember, we only see what others choose for us to see just as a lawn on the outside of a home is no indication of what's going on inside the home. Don't compare yourself to what appears to be greener pastures.  It's good to have examples to look to, but seeds grow best where they are planted and you create your greenest pasture through time, climate, work, forgiveness, compassion, and love.
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